Guilty Pleasures

What is your guilty pleasure? Mine is sitting in a warm tub with lots of bubbles, sipping a glass of white wine, and reading through the affirmations in Creating Love and Joy. Hugs--tc

Healthy situations...

"I accept only pure things in my life. I give only pure things to other people. I trust my heart to gently guide me in the direction of healthy situations (p. 71, Creating Love and Joy)."

Freedom from Negative Emotions

“I am light protecting me from all harm (Creating Love and Joy, p. 78).”

Anger depletes energy.
Guilt is the most useless energy in the universe.
Fear creates the illusion that we have no options for positive growth.
Judgment of others soon becomes hatred and efforts to control.

Stay focused only on your own life.
Trust others to be masters of their own lives.
You cannot control others, you can only control yourself.
Allow yourself the freedom to focus only on yourself and your own journey.

Hugs--tc

Bullfighting at work: Addressing the Sucker Punch

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  Many of us often feel the equivalent of a sucker punch when we interact with our coworkers. Using the sucker punch analogy, let’s go through the process of employing the affirmations in Creating Love and Joy to enhance our workplace relationships.
  
  Let’s look at a scenario where one person unintentionally says something or does something that hurts another person: person A SUCKER PUNCHES person B.
  
  Observers (other people) see the interaction, and “interpret” the body language of persons A & B. Using each of their own backgrounds and experiences as a framework for interpreting the body language, the observers each draw different conclusions about what just happened between persons A & B. Then, the observers act and react, consciously and subconsciously manipulating the situation according to their own thoughts, feelings, and beliefs. Perhaps the observers have only good intentions when they react. However, their interpretation and subsequent action may, or may not, be appropriate. It is possible the observers misinterpret the situation or don’t understand the whole picture. Or, their backgrounds and experiences lead them to view the situation that may not represent the views of persons A and B. This is how the “grapevine” or “gossip mill” distributes information in the workplace.
  
  Let’s refocus back to persons A and B. Remember the fundamental premise in Creating Love and Joy: We reap what we sow. The key to sowing the seeds of constructive relationships and harmony is to focus on the REACTEE (Person B), not on the puncher (person A). It is person B who has the free will choice to decide how they will react -- to person A, and to the observers.
  
  When a person gets sucker-punched, two things might happen, based on a free will choice:
  1. Person B can react by punching back, adding negativity, or generating other forms of discord; OR
  2. Person B can react with an “OOPS”: Although there may be immediate pain in being sucker-punched, we always have the free will choice to step back before reacting by taking a few deep breaths, counting to 10, or otherwise detaching from the emotions and physical sensations of the sucker punch.

Once fully detached, Person B can now make an informed, free will choice about the type of seed they would like to sow in the universe. They can quickly evaluate what the “ripple effect” of a return punch might bring back to them. Person B, who has already been sucker-punched, can control only one aspect of this situation at this moment: their own reaction. They have several choices: punch back, walk away, or communicate they just felt sucker-punched. Punching back sows more discord. When a person punches back, they plant a seed of discord. That seed has a RIPPLE EFFECT on the WHOLE WORLD! Other choices can open the door to constructive relationships.
KEY POINT: While we may have an impulsive, knee-jerk reaction to being sucker-punched (based on our background and experiences), we still have a FREE WILL CHOICE about how we will react.
KEY POINT: It is the person feeling the negative consequences (person B) that has the choice to either amplify a negative ripple effect or minimize it. The potential for an ugly ripple effect can be minimized by a free will choice to NOT punch back. By communicating that s/he just felt sucker-punched, Person B can let Person A know that something is not right, without sowing the seed of discord. A simple “Oops” or “UUfff!” can communicate that the equivalent of a sucker punch just occurred. Or, communicating a “friendly reminder” that something is not right with the situation, is another way to react without sowing the seed of discord.
Remember: “I am light protecting me from all harm (Creating Love and Joy, p. 78).”

Disconnecting from our everyday routine ...

During our healing process, it "… helps to disconnect from our everyday routine and distractions. What is it that we love to do? Is it taking a walk? Sitting quietly? Working out? Listening to music? Jogging? Playing a sport? Taking a bath? Getting a massage? Reading a book? Even if it is only for 10 minutes, 3 times a week, when we set aside a bit of time for ourselves, we can separate from our daily distractions (Creating Love and Joy, p. 80)."

I can only imagine a wonderful weekend for each of us!! Hugs—tc

We begin the affirmation with...

"Another way we can remember the affirmations is to record them in our own voice and listen to them when we can. We can add a few of our own unique goals by recording our personal intentions as well. When we do so, we begin the affirmations with “I choose…” or “I am…” to propel us toward the relationships and experiences we are seeking. We avoid stating what we don’t want. Remember, wherever we focus our thoughts, that is what comes into our life. We visualize what we choose as if we are already living it right now (Creating Love and Joy, p. 79)."

Hugs—tc

Creating lasting change in our life....

"One of the most powerful ways that we can make permanent changes in our life is to take 10 minutes to read the 33 affirmations in Creating Love and Joy each day when we wake up in the morning and before we go to sleep at night. If our mind wanders to specific life instances as we read through them, we can simply replace any negative thoughts and feelings with pure loving light, and continue reading from where we left off. It is important to be gentle with ourselves. We are learning, we are learning, we are learning. If we review the affirmations at least once each day for 21 consecutive days, our subconscious begins to absorb our new perspective. We begin to see positive, joyful changes in our life (Creating Love and Joy, p. 79)."

Hugs—tc

Meeting my own needs...

"I trust that I am meeting my own needs, in the perfect manner, and in the perfect amount, at this moment. (Creating Love and Joy, p. 51)."
Hugs—tc

Rays of Sunshine Radiating Outward....

"I know that, like rays of sunshine radiating outward, we are all unified parts of a larger whole (Creating Love and Joy, p. 73)."
Hugs—tc